Reflecting on Parenthood: Leading by Example
In the bustling rhythm of our daily lives, it’s easy to overlook the small, yet profound ways we influence those around us, especially our children. Holidays like Easter often become moments of reflection, inspiring us to not only celebrate with joy but to instill values of kindness and generosity in our families. As a parent, my aim has always been to nurture good-hearted humans, guiding my children to understand the joy of helping others. But, as I take a moment to evaluate my own actions, I can’t help but question: am I truly exemplifying the virtues I seek to instill in them?
The Challenge of Being a Role Model
Leading by example is a cornerstone of parenting, yet it’s a principle that is as demanding as it is crucial. While my intentions are always to model positive behaviors, the reality is that I, too, am human—flawed and susceptible to the same pitfalls as anyone else. Recent introspection has led me to a humbling realization: if I were to judge my own actions through the lens of parenthood, I might very well find myself “grounded.” This isn’t just about striving to be a better role model for my children; it’s about embodying the values I cherish for my own well-being.
The Seduction of Technology
In an age where technology is at our fingertips, the battle for our attention has never been more fierce. Like many parents, I find myself in the ongoing struggle to moderate my children’s screen time, citing the importance of real-world engagement over the virtual. Yet, how often do I find myself lost in the glow of my own device, rationalizing that what captures my gaze is somehow “important”? This hypocrisy is not lost on me. The truth is, excessive screen time is detrimental not just to our mental health, depleting our dopamine reserves, but also to our relationships, as it diverts our attention from meaningful interactions.
Nutrition: Walking the Talk
Similarly, my approach to nutrition reveals another discrepancy between what I preach and what I practice. While I advocate for a balanced diet and caution my children against processed foods, my own choices—like indulging in processed protein cookies and energy drinks—reflect a glaring inconsistency. This contradiction prompts a vital question: if I wouldn’t approve of such habits for my children, why do I permit them for myself?
Embracing Self-Care and Discipline
The realization that self-discipline and care are equally important for adults as they are for children has been enlightening. Whether it’s ensuring we get enough exercise, sunshine, and water, or moderating our intake of junk food and alcohol, these are principles that should govern our lives regardless of age. The excuse that “no one is around to call you out” is a poor justification for neglecting our well-being.
In Conclusion
My experiences, particularly working in the emergency department, have reinforced my belief that adhering to the simple life rules laid down by our predecessors can significantly enhance our happiness and health. The essence of these principles—kindness, manners, altruism, physical activity, hydration, and nutrition—is timeless and universally applicable.
As parents, we are custodians of the future, tasked with nurturing our children into compassionate, healthy, and responsible adults. Yet, this noble endeavor starts with us. By embracing the standards we set for our children and applying them to ourselves, we can truly lead by example. It’s a journey of continual learning and growth, one that demands patience, forgiveness, and above all, love—for our children and ourselves.
With love,
Stefanie PhD, ENP-C, FNP-C, NREMT, FAARM
